That 's a question that, as a coach, I am often asked. It 's the question a million paperdollari, whose response is even more'.
Our company 'lives of objectives: often, however,' these goals lack the foundations, and people run from side to side without a clear destination in order to survive. Which is not to be 'a very high significance to our lives.
Moreover, the objectives that people ask are often targets of others. But what it 'possible?
Yet I meet so many people who want to "get ahead", to become manager, consultant, etc.. etc.. 'cause they delude themselves that once you reach that goal, will be happy, or so' they say on TV. Moreover, with a nice salary can buy what you want, and your position gives you 'awards to others. Yet, many people feel empty and when I ask them what they are doing s would do for free for the sheer pleasure of it, most laughs. Where
'error? In this example, the error and 'that the lens is built on the lines given by the company', not the person. A goal instead should be based on our values \u200b\u200band our vision.
One of my coachee (who took part in a coaching session), for example, wanted to become a General Manager. Digging more 'in depth, however,' the objective was not completely supported by its values \u200b\u200band in fact admitted that his work did not give him no satisfaction. Its values \u200b\u200bwere
adventure, understood as more 'broad as possible, KNOWLEDGE, travel, exploration and RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS: Many of these values \u200b\u200bconflicted with his goal, which, incredibly, he gave so much trouble to pursue.
should first work on ourselves: the objectives are only an expression of our values, nothing more '. Values \u200b\u200bwithout a goal and 'like a house without foundations: the first breath of wind, collapses.
Some say to me, but I do not have time to work on myself! It 's like if you stopped it not for gas,' cause you're busy driving. Sooner or later, feel the consequences ...
find their own values \u200b\u200band 'a process is often long,' cause we're not accustomed to.
An exercise that might help, and 'the following:
- Describe the 10 activities' that have given you more' satisfaction, last year.
- Describe the 5 activities ', or events, which have a greater meaning to your life (can be turned' applicants, or an event a success once).
At the end of each sentence, write one or more 'values \u200b\u200bthat match you with your second sentence.
For example:
- Spending time with my partner / me ocompagno the evening, drinking wine and reading a book together. Possible values: love, relationships, wisdom.
- That time I did volunteer work, five years ago: Love, adventure, helping others, gratitude.
- That time I conceived the project, accepted by the company, and I've accomplished in spite of the difficulties': CREATIVITY, 'entrepreneurship' RISK.
- When I was in school and I could organize myself as I wanted and what I have worked as a freelancer, take little, but I was happy. Autonomy, independence, control of life.
Some of the values \u200b\u200bare repeated: they are certainly the most 'strong for us. Others see them as we can.
With these values, we build a personal vision and goals are a mere expression of that vision.
A final point: I bet of the 5 activities 'that most' have given meaning to your life, watch TV, spend hours on the Internet, wasting time, go shopping, are not there. Think of how many hours you could use to achieve your dreams ...
Lorenzo
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